Some guidelines for good listening

  • For most of us life is very pressured and busy - if you cannot listen to your child right away, be honest about this and then make the time when you can listen without any interruptions.
  • Take a risk and step out of your own world by putting aside your own thoughts, feelings and experiences of similar situations that your child is now talking about and that happened to you in your life.
  • Be prepared to enter into your child's world by listening to your child not only with your ears but also with your heart so that you can begin to see what they are seeing, and understand and feel what they are feeling, even if you do not agree with them.
  • Be patient and loving with yourself - all of this takes practice and it is OK to make mistakes.