Hi I'm Nike, you know everyone has a family! Let's talk about this.
What does the word “family” mean to you?
There are different kinds of families, including: - NUCLEAR FAMILY : This includes the parents and the children. - EXTENDED FAMILY : This includes the father, mother, children, grand-parents, aunts, uncles and cousins.
Different members of the family have different roles and responsibilities expected of them.
For example, parents provide food, shelter, clothing, and money for their children. Can you think of some other responsibilities for parents?
• Providing a safe and happy home environment for the children. • Nurturing and raising the children.
• Making important decisions. • Teaching the children morals and values.
Children have responsibilities in the family too.
For example, children need to work hard and do well in school so that they can help the family later in life. Can you think of other responsibilities for kids?
* Obeying their parents. * Assisting with household chores. * Helping take care of siblings and other family members.
Don’t you think children have rights, too?
Of course children have rights. They can expect their parents to provide certain things for them, like education, medical care, shelter, food, protection, love, and respect.
I’m glad you mentioned respect. I hear that word a lot, what does it mean to respect your parents, and to be respected by them.
My parents and I respect each other by listening to each other. I know that they have my best interests at heart, so I try to do what they tell me and take their advice. But sometimes I disagree . .
... sometimes I disagree with my parents on things like how long to stay out and play, or the choice of clothes I would like to wear.
Then I need to discuss with them respectfully, but how?
• Talking to them soon after I have a problem. • Talking to them when they are alone and not busy doing something else. • Being clear that I know they want the best for me, but that I think there’s another way of getting it. • Talking calmly and clearly. • Listening carefully to their reasons and considering them before responding.
Families owe each other a lot. Every member of a family should try their hardest to understand, listen to, respect, help and above all, love each other in order to keep the house happy and peaceful.
Families are a lot like the people in them: they grow and change over the years. Can you think of some of the ways your family could change?
Birth, Adoption...
Divorce, Separation, Death...
Movement, Illness, Loss of job.
We all feel and react differently about changes in our lives. Some people get really excited and happy when a change happens, while some people, like me, prefer things to just stay the same.
I know what you mean! When my little brother Kunle was born, my mom and dad were really happy. I wasn’t, though: I didn’t like all the attention he was getting and I thought my parents liked him better.
Now that we’re both older, I can see that our parents love us both as individuals and even though we fight sometimes, I’m glad I have a brother.
There are a lot of emotions involved with changes in families: • Sadness • Fear • Worry • Anger
• Excitement • Happiness or joy. Sometimes we feel all of these emotions, one after the other or even at the same time!
Tunde, did you notice that a lot of things started changing in your family as you got older?
Yeah! I started wanting more control over who I hung out with, what I wore, and how late I stayed out.
Me too! I also wanted more privacy and more trust from my parents, not to mention more time away from them.
I started to hate having to share a room with my cousin – he’s always going through my stuff!
How did you fix it?
Well, I tried being hard on him to make him stop, but it didn’t work - we fought more! Eventually, we sat down with my parents and talked about it, and he agreed to respect my space.
My mom gave me a box with a lock on it for my really important things. I guess it’s better to talk about these things, instead of fighting them out.
Yeah, I told my dad how I was feeling, and now my parents and I have better understanding, they trust me more and don’t ask me so many questions.
It’s like that saying, “Togetherness will build a solid home.” I think a family will work better if everyone communicates with each other.
So it turns out the key to getting along with your family is COMMUNICATION. But the trick is, you can’t only talk to them when there’s a problem.
That’s true. In fact, the better you communicate with your family when there aren’t problems, the less likely it is that you’ll have problems!
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